Given that new reality, I put together what I've learned about psychology of affairs -- their meaning and their consequences for people in our current culture. We ended up in bed, as well as a lot of other places! The liberating and compelling feeling from this kind of affair, though, can mask hidden emotional conflicts.Perhaps the best advice you can give someone about having a relationship with a married man is telling her not to even start. As my friend Jenna* told me, "You can't help who you fall in love with.
I’ve been faithful to my husband for 17 years, but I had the urge to feel this rush of adrenaline again, to seduce again…You talk to people more that you would imagine, you confide in them more that you would expect.“Was it necessary to tell me that you wanted nothing in the world but me? Oh, my dear, it's rather hard to take quite literally the things a man says when he's in love with you.'Didn't you mean them? Somerset Maugham, “Women writers make for rewarding (and efficient) lovers. I'll kill him if he is.” ― Jonathan Safran Foer, “Being faithful and monogamous is not natural for human beings. Even when it was only a fleeting thought and we didn't act on it.The woman who is in love with a married man lives a life that, for the most part, is shrouded in secrecy.Her close circle of friends might know about her affair, but she really cannot let anyone else, such as colleagues or her family, know.