After the break-up of a relationship you might also find it difficult to contemplate having a physical relationship with someone new.
These feelings are natural and usually go away with a bit of time and with the excitement and pleasure of meeting someone new and special.
However, she says, one month is a sound period of time to wait before returning to the ultra-vulnerable place that is dating. Playing the self-love game reinforces our independence, which is a critical factor in upholding healthy relationships.
Here that, part of you that starts scoping cute guys immediately? It also provides time and space to reflect on what did and didn’t work in the terminated relationship.
After the break-up of a long relationship, it can be almost frightening to be single again: you’ve relied for so long on another person to meet certain emotional, practical and financial needs.
However, one of the most liberating things about being single is the empowerment it brings: you realise that you have skills and talents for coping with life that have remained dormant for years and can now resurface.
Then there's the whole idea that "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else." Which is right?
When I write dating tips and relationship advice for a new mode, I am writing to a female audience.
But neediness is not gender-specific – guys make the mistake of being “needy” too!
“Unless they want to be, a single person these days is rarely on their own,” says Dr Goldstein.
“They’ll more than likely be very social, exploring their options and regularly enjoying the company of other people, whether platonic or romantic.