Question: "I am in the process of getting a divorce.Can I start dating, or do I have to wait until the divorce is final?According to the "2014 State of Dating in America" report published by Christian Mingle and JDate, 61 percent of Christians said they would have sex before marriage.Fifty-six percent said that it's appropriate to move in with someone after dating for a time between six months and two years."Even if the church frowns on this behavior, they take it upon themselves to make an educated decision between the two of them."Sussmann paraphrased a common expression she hears from religious patients: "I practice what the church teaches me, but this is something personal between me and my partner." The therapist commented that, in many ways, churches are "fighting an uphill battle because this is nature."According to Sprigg, "there may be a weakness on the part of churches" that explains the gap between sexual behavior and biblical standards.He described "a vicious circle," where a pastor welcomes people regardless of their past sins, and then fails to preach biblical morality due to a fear of being considered too harsh."I would encourage pastors to speak bluntly and boldly about sexuality and a biblical view of sexuality and marriage," Sprigg declared.Concerned that dating before your divorce is going to be final could be legally hazardous?Afraid it is going to see you get the short end from the court to punish you because you have been going out?
For one thing, the concept of “dating” as we know it today is nowhere mentioned in the Bible.Remember, Judges have "what they call wide discretion," (means they are God and law or no law, what ever they say goes) Keep in mind that most divorces are based on an agreement you have worked out between you two, and/or if you are using attorneys, what your attorneys have worked out and got you both to agree to.The judge then looks at the proposed settlement, and if it seems fair to them, they stamp it final.Interpreting this data, Sprigg shared his warning to Christians about dating sites."Those who are active, committed Christians who believe in biblical values need to be cautious in using sites like Christian Mingle and not assume that others on the site share their values."Rachel Sussmann, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert, agreed with Sprigg that even those who consider themselves strong Christians make unbiblical decisions about sex."Oftentimes couples find this as something personal between the two of them," Sussman explained.