I was browsing through blog posts and articles recently and I came across a question that said, “Help! It seemed like a really big crisis for that woman, almost comparable to asking a question such as “my daughter is marrying a drug addict, what should I do?
” Reading and re-reading the question out loud in my head, it surprises me how there are still these bigoted stereotypes like that in this day and age.
Black women have told me it's because I'm a sellout.
But the reality is that only 54 percent said they had actually done so.Personally, you'd get more points from me for if you can quote James Baldwin or if you're knowledgeable about or genuinely interested in learning about my culture beyond popular trends and stereotypes. Johnson wrote for Everyday Feminism: part of Black culture, that has to include learning about the history of what you’re appreciating and about the struggles and achievements of the people you’re borrowing from.Then you’ll be the kind of ally who’s informed enough to honor our culture in a way that supports us — instead of just taking what you like and hurting our community.The concept of a black man in a relationship with a white woman is a "thing" that people have an opinion on, and that opinion comes with an entire set of stereotypes, fueled by racist ideology, a complicated past, and sometimes even pop culture.Kanye West once rapped about how successful black men will "leave your ass for a white girl," and then put himself into that box by marrying a white woman, furthering the pervasiveness of flawed, generic ideas about interracial relationships.