I don’t understand why he would have meaningful conversations with me, even mention he might want to meet, etc. I’m going to try to keep as much as my original reply to this reader in this article however I wanted to point something out: this situation can happen to anyone and it is not uncommon.
What do you do when a guy keeps emailing you for days and keeps asking you simple, basic questions but never gets to the point that he wants to get together. Since then, I usually wait about 10 e-mails before "popping the question" so to speak. I have suggested in the past after about 5 or so emails back and forth moving the conversation to the phone. So he may very well be waiting for you to hint at that you want to meet, before he asks, to make sure you don't bite his head off for suggesting meeting before you "get to know him on the site"2 hours for a 3o minute meeting, see you there". If he doesn't respond with , "Okay" or another place to meet in 2 hours, you stop all contact with him because he is just out to waste your time. Or I get some dumb excuse about how they cannot meet for a couple of weeks. If you are interested in him, put this in your next response.Accept that dating online will involve some chasing.If you find someone who catches your eye, send an icebreaker or a friendly email.But experts say that even though it may seem like you’re getting to know the person better before your date, it’s actually a false sense of intimacy — and you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.“It’s a trend we’ve coined ‘premature escalation,’ ” explains Emily Morse, a sex and relationship expert and host of the “Sex With Emily” podcast on i Tunes. by the time you meet your partner for an actual date, you’ve built up this whole image and fantasy in your head of who you think they are, and then they turn out to be totally different.” That’s what happened to Kenny Thapoung, an editorial assistant from Bed-Stuy.