This rule is almost never stated or enforced among queer communities.If you're gay, you will almost inevitably date a friend's ex at some point.There are a few different things that happened during the time I was newly separated that caused me to classify myself as temporarily psychotic, one of those being when I figured out "my ex is dating my friend! Here was a woman who I thought was my good girlfriend.

If you do have mutual friends, it would be a little cruel for your ex to find out that you’re dating again through someone else, especially as it might put their friendship in an awkward position. The relationship lasted for about 6 months (I think) and years later, I've come to realize how silly and stupid I was for having the reaction I did. Grit your teeth, accept it, act classy and show grace to the outside world. She is also the author of her new divorce novel with the same name, as well as her other divorce novel, FREE GIFT WITH PURCHASE. Pilossoph is a weekly business features reporter and columnist for Sun-Times Media. I hated them and everyone else who I thought could possibly know about their relationship. I thought about them giggling and laughing and kissing and being blissfully happy. The fact that this girl did this to you is probably making you feel insecure about girl friendships. They will assure you that they are your best friends and that you are loved. A good friend used to say to me, "You're on your own road. " Lastly, if you are on the other end of this, meaning if you are the one who starts dating your friend's ex, PLEASE handle it this way. Jackie Pilossoph is the author of the blog, Divorced Girl Smiling. Queer communities are often small and insular, and once you've found one, you tend to hold on to it for dear life.It's difficult to meet people you're romantically interested in beyond an already-defined circle, and outside of your city's queer scene, most people you run into are likely to be straight.