AS A PSYCHOLOGIST, I have always found the concept of speed dating fascinating.
During a series of mini dates, each spanning no more than a couple of minutes, participants in a speed-dating event evaluate a succession of eligible singles.
I went speed dating about four years ago and brought a good friend with me.
Afterward, I had three matches and my friend only had one. We are two very different types, and we have different taste in men, but still.
They make split-second decisions on matters of the heart, creating a pool of information on one of the more ineffable yet vital questions of our time—how we select our mates.
The concept of rapid-fire dating has gained tremendous popularity, spreading to cities all over the world.
One speed-dating company in New York City, for example, holds a gathering almost every day.
We have solved the issue of legacy architecture based picture and text profiles by instead giving our members a video profile and the chance to meet someone through live video chat before meeting in person.
If you both circle yes, you get each others’ contact information in an email the next day. Last week I went speed dating and I met two Australians who had only been in the country for five days, a soldier who finished his service in Afghanistan three days earlier, and a guy who works for Time Warner and was afraid I would hold that against him (I didn’t. Yet, they somehow all convinced each other that no one there was good enough for them.
I would never have looked twice at someone who was in the military when perusing dating sites, assuming we were too different. Bringing friends along might help you feel relaxed going into the speed dating event, but it could result in the pack mentality.
Start-up companies now meet with investors, pregnant couples interact with doulas, and homeless dogs court potential owners, all using the speed-dating format.
Some years ago I caved to my curiosity and tried it out myself. When the little buzzer went off after three minutes, I often found myself still trying to explain to my bedazzled dating partner why my last name has four syllables (it is Dutch).